There are many ways to make your wife feel special.  Part of it is getting to know her all over again.  Remember when you were first dating?  Chances are that you worked pretty hard to impress her and make things just right for her.  And I bet that the passion was at a real high point between you.  Well, the reason you are reading this is that since you've both "got" each other, all the effort and excitement has stopped and you are just going day to day.  And things have gotten stale.  You marriage is in a rut.

Well... now it is time to shake things up and get your creative "make my wife swoon" juices flowing.  And it all starts with little things.  Here are some ideas:

• Look her in the eyes and say "I love you" followed by just hugging and holding her for a while.
  
• Leave her a note on a post-it that simply says "I love you, (name)" where you know she'll find it. 
  
• When you see her, look at how beautiful she is to you and then just tell her "you are so beautiful, sweetheart."
  
• This may sound silly, but she'll LOVE it - before you go to bed, take her favorite brush and ask her to sit in front of you and then just gently brush her hair - she'll tell you harder or softer.  (don't have any expectations)
  
• Pay attention to how she makes her morning coffee / breakfast / juice and make it for her the next morning - and the morning after and so on.  5 minutes a day - big pay-off later.  (if she says it's too this or not enough that, say "thanks for letting me know" and change the way you make it - see building trust)
  
• Take the kids one night to a show / store / grandparents and tell her you just want to give her a break (she'll be thrilled).  If she would rather plan it for another day, say "great - just tell me when."
  
• Make her a bath, light a couple of candles, provide a nice drink (that you know she likes) and let her relax with no interruptions at all.  Let her know this is for her and if she needs anything, to call on you.  Wait until she calls you or is done.  Again - no expectations - this is for HER.
  
• Make her a CD with her favorite songs on it. 
  
• Send her a "Thinking of you" greeting card with a note: "I just wanted you to know I am thinking about you, my Love."  And whatever else you want to say to make her feel really good.

These are just a few things you can do. Of course, she may ask and wonder why you're doing this stuff.  Just tell her you are working on a change in yourself and want to be more attentive to her - because you are lucky to have her in your life.

When you do these things, do it to make her feel good about herself - to make her feel loved - to make her feel special.  She is your wife - she is the most special person in your life, for the rest of your life - make her feel it!  This is NOT work; this is joy.  When you're doing these little things, take great pleasure in her smile - you made her smile - you are making her happy.  And she will respond with more trust, more openness, and more passion.  The passion will grow over time - just make her feel special.