When I mention Christian marriage, I don't want to exclude other faiths or non-faiths. I am Christian, and I have a great marriage. However, this does not mean you must be Christian to have a great marriage. I know several couples in great Christian marriages and several couples in great "non-Christian" marriages. The reason I consistently use Biblical marriage principals as a basis for a marriage advice and suggestions is it works.
The non-Christians I know with great marriages unknowingly have many aspects of their marriage in line with Biblical marriage principals. And it is in large part due to these aspects of their marriages that they are successful. So - for people of other faiths or agnostics or even atheists reading these posts, please take what you can from it - anyone can learn from other models of marriage. When Husbands begin to look to themselves for change, rather than point their fingers at the other half, marriages tend to turn around. When husbands begin to be leaders and lovers of their wives, marriages turn around.
One of you put it best when you wrote: "... I have a whole new look at my marriage and my wife. I never realized that MY attitude was affecting our relationship, I feel better about myself now and I can tell you that my wife is much happier now. Again thank you thank you thank you."
This blog is not just about passion - it is about building, restoring or even rescuing marriages. The truth is: passion is a great motivator - so if a husband comes here trying to find out how to improve his wife's libido, great - that's a fine place to start. Why: because passion in marriage is a good gauge of the rest of the marriage. When everything is going well in the bedroom, sex accounts for about 10% of a relationship - but it is the barometer of the relationship; because when things are bad in the bedroom, sex becomes very important - it seems like 90% of the problems (and lack of it leads to temptation, resentment and affairs).
In reality, problems with intimacy are just the symptom - the problems are deeper. In a high percentage of situations, if the husband takes the initiative (regardless of who is to "blame"), the marriage will turn around. So, please read with an open mind and get something out of IgniteHerPassion and Christian marriage principals.