Have you ever been to a party or bar-b-q and noticed that one couple that makes everyone sick?  They're always hugging and kissing on each other - they hold hands are always touching and are inseparable.  Of course, things get really out of hand when they start kissing passionately in front of everyone and after two or three minutes of kissing, people are commenting that they should get a room.  You know those people?  Annoying.  Don't be like that.  lol  Well... actually, be almost like that... just bring it back a few of notches.

It's funny: I notice that men are either all over their wives or they act like their wives aren't even there.  What about doing something in between?

Wives love when their men are not ashamed to show them affection and give them attention in public.  I am surprised to see how many men out there act like their wives are just a buddy they're hanging out with or just ignore their wives altogether when they are at parties or get-togethers. 

When you're in social settings, public displays of affection are a good way to let your wife know you love her.  And public displays of affection let your wife know you are really happy to say to the world: "this is my wife and I love her!" 

But what is a good display of affection and what is a bad display of affection?  It varies from couple to couple, but here are two basic guidelines:

• If you are groping your wife, making out with her in front of people, not letting her out of your sight, then your public display is more like marking your territory.  It objectifies your wife into something more like property than a woman.
  
• If you are paying attention to your wife, touching her in affectionate but respectful ways, giving her a kiss or two here and there, then you are giving her the attention she desires. 

My wife mentioned to me once that it's great that we are not attached at the hip - that we can go and hang out with our friends separately and not be possessive at parties.  BUT, she said that I would just go off and leave her alone for a long, long time.  So she asked that I re-connect with her - even just eye contact and a smile from across the room is good.  Seeking her out to give her a hello and a little kiss from time to time is really nice.  So of course, I started doing that.  And she appreciated it.  Yet another deposit into her passion bank, so to speak.

I am sure to be with her and give her time and show affection as well as hang out with my buddies.  I am always respectful and touch, kiss and hug her in ways that make her feel good and secure in our relationship.  And it has really made a difference!

So work on paying attention to your wife when you're at social events, she'll feel loved and her passion for you will continue to grow.