Even when everyone is well in a household, there are still tremendous pressures on you and your wife.  From the time I get home to the time I go to bed, it seems to be non-stop.  My son is constantly saying: "Daddy look!" and "Do you want to play with me", my wife needs help with the baby and dinner, we set the table, eat, clean up, have some dessert, play with the kids, give them their baths, get them ready for bed, put them in bed, deal with one thousand reasons why they wake up / get out of bed, clean more, work on business projects, etc.  Before we both realize it, it is 11:30 and we are exhausted.

We just go, go, go from the time we wake to the time we go to bed.  It is a vicious circle and it seems to be taking over our lives!!  So where is the time for romance??  When can WE connect?  ARRGH!  You can imagine what all this does to a woman's libido - it kills her libido! 

So, I have made it my job to find time - to make time - to give her an escape - or at least many mini-escapes.  And that is what I will be working on this weekend and next week: creating an oasis in a hectic life where she can reconnect with herself - and then we can connect with each other.  Now that I am getting over this illness and no one is sick in my house, I can carve out some time to focus on creating pockets of time to get us out of the vicious circle or the crazy routine.