If your wife knows in her heart that she is your one true love, then her passion for you will have fertile ground to grow in. Yeah - that sounds really sappy, right? And is there really "one true love"? Some would say there are many people you could fall in love with - honestly, this may be the case. So how do you show your wife that she is your one true love? You show her that she is your only love - that you don't love any other woman - and that you don;t want to.
She needs to know that you are not secretly wishing you met someone else. She needs to know that you do not regret choosing her. If she has the slightest inkling that you wish she was different - or that you see other women and "wonder" what if, then she will not be at ease that you love only her.
100% Acceptance of Your Wife
You need to accept your wife for who she is - 100%. That does not mean she is perfect - no one is perfect. It does not mean that she won't grow and change as your relationship grows. And it does not mean that she doesn't have to work on her personal issues the same as you do (face it: we ALL have them). What it means is that you accept her for who she is today. It means you accept her with her strengths and her faults. It means you are grateful to God that she is your wife.
When you build an environment of acceptance, then she will have the freedom and desire to grow and change because she WANTS TO - no because she HAS TO.
How to Truly Accept Your Wife
How do you accept her? First, you need to work on your expectations. You probably have a list of expectations that she has not fulfilled. One of them has to do with how she is in the bedroom. One of them may be that she is always sweet and kind to you. Well... these are just resentments waiting to happen. She is human. She will fall into a rut. She will get cranky. She will not meet your expectations all the time. And you cannot make her. So as your inner resentment grows, it begins to show. She will feel it and she will react by being more distant, cranky and falling short of more of your expectations - and so the destructive circle begins.
So what do you do? Throw out your expectations. It is time to be a man and begin leading by example. Lead by accepting that you cannot change her. She may TRY to change you, but don't let that bother you. Make changes in yourself. Begin to serve her and love her 100%. She will see.
It is not easy. You have to take the high road. And that's where a test of manhood comes in to play. Stop trying to prove yourself right. Stop trying to make sure she notices you did the dishes (they needed to be done anyway, right? - be happy you were man enough to do them).
It is easy to get angry and plant the seeds of resentment - but it is much harder to be untouched by these things and be content - that is why it takes a man to do it. If you can take the high road and be happy and content, then you will eliminate resentment from your life.
When you slip, collect yourself and think about it - is it better to live in anger or to live with contentment?
Then you need to let her know you love her 100%.
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Tell her that you are a lucky man for having her
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Tell her that you are happy you chose her as your bride
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Kiss her frequently and look her in the eyes
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Spend time with her
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Shut off the TV and talk
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Listen to her
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Accept her and love her. That's what she needs. Give her room to breathe and she will want to grow and her passion will begin to flourish.