Valentine's Day is only two weeks away and it's time for some romantic Valentine's Day ideas.  If you have not done so already, now is a good time to begin thinking about what you plan to do for your wife.  This may not be a big day as far as you're concerned, but believe me: it is a big deal to her.  And guess what?  If it's a big deal to her - then it should be a big deal to you.

Don't Be Average 

The average Valentine's Day ideas consist of some flowers, chocolates, and/or a card.  Most women are happy with flowers, a box of chocolates and/or a card.  If I wanted to be like the average husband, I would probably get her just that.  However, I do not want to be like the average husband - I want a really good romantic Valentine's day idea - I want to be the guy she tells all her friends about and they say: "wow, you're so lucky, Dawn - I wish my husband would do that."  I want my wife to feel really special.  And I want to do it without any strings attached.

How I Screwed Up a Romantic Valentine's Day Idea 

If you have expectations, you will pour on the pressure and suck her libido dry. Let me tell you a little story: two years ago I went all out with the dinner, the flowers (everywhere), the candles and the expectations.  We were in the middle of a remodel and the fireplace was all torn up.  But no matter - I "beautified" it:

The whole room was similar.  Nice set up.  She was really surprised!  But when we snuggled in front of the fireplace, she got really tense.  She knew what I expected because I was pretty obvious (doofus).  And with all this stuff around her she felt pressure not just to make love - but to really "perform".  So things were tense - not so great.  But in the end, we had a nice evening.  If I could do it over with what I know now, I would be sure to tell her right from the start that I would be really happy with just snuggling and didn't expect anything - I would have assured her that it was for HER - and there were no strings attached.  If she knew I was sincere, there would have been no pressure, which would have increased her libido.  Ironically, without the pressure, she probably would have been all over me - but who knows?

No Pressure = Better Romance 

So: drop your expectations when you execute your romantic Valentine's Day idea and consider that nothing sexual may come of the night - in fact count on it NOT happening in your mind.  Do this for her and only for her.  Make her feel special and enjoy her being happy.  Let her call the shots, so to speak - and be happy no matter the outcome.  But know this: reduced pressure will increase her libido - it's an indirect relationship.

This year, Valentine's day falls on a Thursday.  Not so great.  So it is even more likely that she will just want to snuggle and fall asleep.  If you want to do something that takes the entire evening, tell her in advance that you want to celebrate Valentine's day on Friday (but still get her flowers on Thursday - because the actual day matters - don't ask me why - just trust me).

Romantic Valentine's Day Ideas

Of course, with all the Valentine's Day ideas below, flowers are a must - so just about everything involves flowers.  In fact - no matter what you do, spring a little cash if you have it and have flowers delivered to her in the middle of the day - if she works, then she'll love when everyone compliments her on her flowers.  You don't have to spend $75 on a dozen red roses - why be so predictable?  Get her something pretty, but not typical.

Now to some Valentine's day ideas:

1. The standard: have flowers delivered to her at home/work.  And get her a card and some candy.
2. Make (or buy) a nice candle-light dinner and have flowers for her when she gets home.
3. Take her out to dinner and pre-arrange for flowers and a card to be at the table when you get seated.
4. Have a picnic on the floor in your living room - complete with blanket, basket, flowers and dessert.
5. Drive to an overlook, look at the city lights - bring some strawberries and Cool whip for a snack.
6. Drop by unexpected to her work for lunch - wear your best suit and personally deliver flowers to her and then take her to lunch. You may pre-arrange with her boss/coworkers to make sure she's there.
7. If she works, arrange with her boss for her to have a half day off - then pick her up as above but go somewhere fun after lunch.  If she doesn't work, then you take half a day - but you have to be sure one of her friends is able to make sure she's home.  And of course, you may or may not need to arrange babysitting.
8. Rent a chick flick she likes or wants to see, get some pop-corn and a warm blanket - snuggle up and watch the show.  (of course, don't forget the flowers)
9. Buy her a nice gift and present it to her in a creative way, like if you go out to dinner, having a waiter bring it out with the food. (yeah - I know - it's been done... but it works - the point is: surprise her with something out of the ordinary)
10. Have the kids watched overnight and go on a one and a half day getaway.
11. Take half a day off and clean the entire house.  Light candles and some incense and have some nice music on when she gets home (if she doesn't work - have a friend take her out or send her to a day-spa for a couple of hours).  Draw a nice bath for her.  Lay out some nice clothes on the bed that you want her to wear.  Tell her to be ready by a certain time.  Leave.  Call her 10 minutes before the time and see where she's at.  Try to arrive about 2 to 5 minutes after she's ready.  Ring the doorbell and have some flowers ready.  When she answers, present the flowers and take her on a date (or stay in for a date).

These are just a few ideas - of course, you can do the dinner and relaxation massage or any number of things, but this should get your mind moving.  Be original.  If you have no clue, ask a friend's wife for ideas or get a book with ideas.

Oh - and a good snack idea (if you both drink occasionally) is to get some strawberries, cool whip and Champaign.  Cut one strawberry in half and put each half in a glass of Champaign.  It's really good to snack on it after you finish the glass.

Start planning now.  The more you plan, the more special she will feel.