My name is Nick. Thanks for visiting my blog. I have been married to my wonderful wife for 5 years and have three sons - two of them with my wife. I am a trained life / empowerment coach and enjoy helping people with their relationships.
I have been through a first marriage of 10 years and know how intimacy issues can balloon into much bigger problems - problems that lead to divorce. After my first marriage, I made it a point to understand what went wrong and how to not let it happen again.
Over the last 5 years, I have applied what I have learned. My wife also went through tough times and came into our marriage open to learning and changing. In the beginning of our marriage, after the honeymoon was over, we began having problems. We fought a lot and I was seeing some of the same patterns I had seen in the past. Then two things happened: 1) we both became Christians and began following the biblical picture of marriage and 2) I began to let go of my expectations and focused my energy on loving service to my wife. I used what I had learned from my past, from my training as a coach, from my counseling, from my wife and from God to rebuild my marriage into what it is today.
My wife and I have worked together to form a solid relationship. The result is that my relationship with my wife is closer than I thought possible. It's not all roses all the time, but I have learned how to turn a down into an up. I have learned to "man-up" as my friends say. I have learned how to make my wife desire me because of how I treat her and how I act.
Sex may not be the most important aspect of a relationship, but lack of intimacy can bring resentment and temptation that your wife will never tell you about - until it's too late. Or it is also likely that it is you who is tempted. If you're not taking care of things in the bedroom, then the relationship can easily go down hill over time. If you're like me, you love to make love to your wife. And you would love it if she wanted you more. And you would love for her to initiate things some times. And you would love to drive her crazy with passion and desire.
I know how to do it - in spite of children, babies, stress, jobs, household demands, lack of sleep, hormonal swings (due to both cycles and post-partum issues). I hope to help some readers out there with making their marriage the way God intended - with lots of intimacy and lots of love and, frankly, lots of mutually satisfying sex.
So that's what this blog is about (and soon a forum as well). If you have suggestions, please comment as much as you like - keep it PG13.