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Comment on Female Emotional Libido by admin

admin — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 02:52:17 +0000

It sounds like you could be feeling a lot of pressure to do so and also that you may have an issue with your self-esteem. You are not faulty! You need to unlearn what has made you feel broken. You need to learn to relax your mind so that you can let go. Of course, that is much easier said than done. You and your husband need the tools to pull your marriage out of this long rut! Please get help from a qualified sex therapist. My wife and I went to one. At first we were both thinking all these strange thoughts about what it would be like to see a sex tharapist. We also felt bad about having to go in the first place – but when you need help, you need to suck it up and go get help! After our first appointment, all our funky preconceived notions were dispelled. After a few weeks, our intimate relationship improved, and now, several years later, things are great! Give yourself time… take baby steps – but once you start, always move forward.

If you are stressed about it, then you are going to have a hard time, which leads to more stress, and the vicious cycle continues. Break the cycle! Get help asap!

We are all beautiful in God’s eyes. See yourself through God’s eyes for the beautiful woman you really are. You can do it – but you need guidance…

Comment on Female Emotional Libido by paul f dsouza

paul f dsouza — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 16:54:30 +0000

iam not getting orgasm last 15years of married life
my husband is not happy with me can i have an orgasm at this age
of 40yrs

i think i am faulty

plz help

Comment on Female Libido Explained – Make Her Libido Thrive by admin

admin — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 03:09:24 +0000

I have been where you are at, my friend. My ex used to say she hated that I was so “needy” – because I adored her and was romantic, etc. — much like what you describe – getting her in the mood for sex was a chore. BUT – in all honesty: I WAS too needy – I now know that I don’t “need” my current wife. I WANT her. I CHOOSE to be with her because I LOVE her. There is a big difference. It also turns out that, my ex was just DEEPLY afraid of truly being close in an intimate relationship – the closer I tried to get, the more she pushed away.

Your wife’s behavior is not acceptable, but it is not the problem. The behavior is a symptom. Something is up under the hood. You two need help from an objective professional. You need to get to the bottom of the root problem.

And – keep in mind it IS A TWO WAY street. In hindsight I can see all the things I did in my previous marriage that didn’t help and sometimes hurt the relationship. So keep that in mind – in order for her to take responsibility for her behavior, you need to take responsibility for your part. That is part of leading and being a man (something I learned the second time around – and its working).

Comment on Female Libido Explained – Make Her Libido Thrive by admin

admin — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 02:51:54 +0000

You two need some help. I am NOT a professional, but it seems like he might have a sex addiction – if he has sex and then frequently feels bad about it, then that’s not a good thing. It also looks like a cycle of abuse – he does something against your will, it happens and then he feels bad. Then it happens again…

Something’s gotta give. You obviously love him and want to please him, but he is acting very selfish and not considering your feelings. Get in to see a counselor asap. Even if he does not go – you can go and maybe learn some ways to start talking with him — the end goal is to get BOTH of you in counseling.

There is no shame is seeking help. Lack of help / willingness of my ex wife to get help contributed greatly to the demise of my first marriage. On the flip side – getting a good Christian counselor has saved my current marriage – its been 3 years since then and things are getting better and better each day! (We’ve been married 9 years) You can do it – but you have to start with the first step! Get yourself help!

Comment on Female Libido Explained – Make Her Libido Thrive by Ann

Ann — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 21:12:49 +0000

Please help. I am over 50, have been married to a really great man for over three years. However, he is controlling both in the bedroom and out of it, and our intimacy is primarily directed by him. He likes to make love daily, but sometimes I am unable to keep feeling the “desire”. He likes to do things to me that I do not always approve of. I tell him no, but he continues to do it anyway. I have become very passive and just lay there – I used to really get involved and be part of the lovemaking. At times I will suggest we make love the way I like to, but during that time he verbalizes to me other things he’d rather be doing. I do not like making love when I do not feel the desire. I WANT to participate more, but I feel controlled and lack confidence tremendously. He doesn’t seem to mind that I am not involved, but I do. Afterward, he feels badly because he knows that I was unhappy throughout it. I do not want to feel used, or treated like a “toy.” I have gone as far as having my testosterone level tested ( it is very low) and have received topical testosterone cream. This has not made a difference. How do I increase my own libido and desire? I want to please him always, but I am not a pretender either.