Even if you have sex often, your wife's libido is in danger of dying if you always have the same routine. If you really want to increase her libido and keep it there, you need to get out of the routine. It is easy to get into a comfortable rut when it comes to sex. Especially if you have children and you both work. Who has the energy to get all creative with sex and romance when you're beating a desk all day and dealing with kids all night?
Believe me, I know: all three of my boys have been sick on and off for two weeks. The baby can't breathe while he's nursing and has been simply miserable. And my wife and I have been exhausted every night. (Which is why I have not been writing new posts.)
So – what can I do? Well, I have arranged to surprise her to break up the routine. I cannot say what it is because she reads this blog. But guess what? Just the excitement of planning this surprise has given me energy that I thought I didn't have.
The point? The point is that the prospect of making her happy, refreshing our relationship with something new and increasing her libido is giving me the fuel I needed. So – even if thinking about doing something seems tiring, once you start and get involved, it will provide the fuel you need. It gives you energy – and she will feed off that energy.
When it comes to romance, a break in the routine can do wonders. But when it comes to sex, breaking up the routine can be amazing! If you always do it in your bed at bed time and do the same things, then the excitement will dwindle. To keep your wife's libido at a high point, you cannot afford to let her get bored.
Making it different can add spark. Try a different place. If she's a cleanliness nut, then bring beach towel. It can be a place in your room – just not the bed: try it with her against a wall, or on a chair, on the floor, etc. Of course a different room is great, too. It is amazing how simply changing the location (not to mention positions) can give sex a whole new feeling. She'll appreciate the sense of adventure and the break in the routine. She'll be looking forward to what you'll do next. And you'll appreciate her increased libido as a result.