So you're married and the honeymoon is over. If you are reading this, then either you or someone you know is experiencing reduced passion in marriage. It is likely that your wife's libido has been reduced or evaporated over the past years or months. She loves you, but is not passionate towards you anymore. You are not alone. Keep your head up: there is hope and there are things you can do to ignite her passion again.
But now you are in a rut – and she is not doing the things you desire. But ask yourself: are you doing the things SHE desires. Marriage is not an automatic license to have sex whenever you want without any effort. Marriage is about loving and serving your wife. So how should you love your wife? More to the point: how do you show your love and generate her desire for you. How do you ignite her passion?
First realize how the passion died. Passion is suffocated by stress, jobs, daily routine, money problems, responsibility, children and household demands. With all this things draining your and her energy, things can cool down really fast. It is up to you, yes: you – as the husband – as the leader of your household, to create an environment that will allow passion to flourish.
10% of a relationship is sex, yet it is amazing how trouble in that 10% area can quickly transform into a focal point of relationship problems. If you are not doing your job and she is not doing her's, then marriage can become a grind that one of you will inevitably be tempted away from. Don't let that happen to you.
This is the first entry in Ignite Her Passion and the purpose of this site is to give the reader ideas, tools and advice on how to take action and turn the tide. I will be posting frequently, so come back often.