A lot of couples are tired after a day of work and they just feel like “vegging” in front of the TV. I’m here to tell ya: the TV can quickly eat up 2 to 4 hours of time in your evenings. That is time you could have spent getting close to your wife. Who do you want to be closer to: the guys from the show The Office or the woman you married? The answer is hopefully the woman you married (otherwise, please stop reading and call a counselor for the sake of your marriage).
More Time = Growing Closer
So you’ve got 2 to 4 hours of free time. What the heck do you do with it. If you haven’t had that kind of time with your wife in a while, it may feel awkward at first. The same goes for time with the children, if you have them. But let it happen. It is likely you will end up cleaning up around the house at first. But then conversation will begin. And be ready to listen. Learn to talk with your wife again. Learn to play with the kids again. Help your wife with clean up and then sit and relax with her.
You will grow closer – as a couple and as a family. You will begin to feel more intimacy towards your wife and she will really feel more intimacy towards you. The side benefit for both of you: she will want you more – there will be more sex in your life.
TiVo for Relationships
If you have a favorite show, I suggest getting a TiVo – you can watch a 1 hour program in about 40 minutes by fast forwarding through commercials. And when you sit – sit together. I like to have my wife lay with her head on my lap and I go on “auto pilot” and run my fingers through her hair and caress her back while we watch our favorite show. She LOVES it! And I enjoy it, too – plus it is not a difficult thing to do.
So: you can make time and shut off the TV and grow closer. You can take limited TV time and make it a time for loving physical affection towards your wife.